CREATE COURAGEOUSLY
This tool is designed for the introduction to exploring values with clients, created by LSCC Rachel Passereni.
CHOOSE ALIVENESS
Skill Refresh - Values
In this skill refresh, Megan goes over the essentials when coaching around values with a client.
DISCOVER PURPOSE
Tolerations List
We tend to get dragged down and overwhelmed by things that accumulate over time - and end up cluttering our minds. What are you putting up with?
DEVELOP POTENTIAL
LEAD TO SERVE
One of the most powerful fulfillment tools that we have in our coaching toolbox are personal experiential values. When we have a resonant names to give to the concepts that we hold most dear, we are able to establish a foundation on which creative self-expression and courageous servant leadership can stand and thrive. Without names for these values, we often struggle with clarity and confidence in our decision-making, leading to a host of limiting beliefs and a conveniently difficult and meandering journey to addressing and transforming the status quo.
As LSCCs, you've been through a pretty rigorous process to mine for your own values and cultivate creativity within yourself. Once you've graduated from the program, you are at choice around how you implement those values in your life as well as your coaching practice.
Within the past year and a half, I found that I was less and less excited to show up for my clients in their session and outside of them. Part of that was a grief and healing process that required a lot of my energy, and another part was the lack of resonance in my coaching process with my current experiential values. I was using the same tools and processes that I started with when I launched my own private practice 7 years ago. There was even carry-over from when I began coaching in higher education 12 years ago. While these tools and processes are still good and effective, they lacked an infusion of about 10 years of personal research and the creative self-expression that comes with fully honoring my experiential values.
So I took this year to assess what was missing and what I wanted my coaching practice to look like now and who I wanted to serve now. In October, I launched a new coaching package as part of my Flow Wild Soul services called the Rhythms of Unfolding, and I began mentor coaching. I feel more vitality, resonance, and fulfillment in my work now, and I want that for you too.
The whole point in sharing this with you is to say that there is not a point in your personal and professional development that honoring your values through resonant choice becomes unimportant or old hat. Research has shown that reaffirming your values leads to decreases in psychological distress and maladaptive behavior. It is not just for new clients, and you don't just do it once and leave values on the discovery-session-room-floor. We reaffirm our values again and again.
Questions for Reflection:
What are my top five experiential values? Do they need a refresh?
Where and when are my values most highly honored? Who is around me when that is happening?
What am I tolerating that is not in line with my values? How can I re-craft those tasks/relationships/situations so my engagement with them is resonant?
How can I bring more creative expression of my values into my coaching relationships?
Affirmation:
”I am worthy of living a life of conscious, resonant choice.”
Blessings,
