CREATE COURAGEOUSLY
PERMA+ME Assessment Wheel
This coaching tool was created by Megan Gilmore to assess a client's level of well-being by considering 7 different facets with evidence-based interventions - Positive Emotion, Engagement, Relationships, Accomplishment, Mindfulness, and Embodiment.
Use with clients to establish coaching objectives or assess areas of focus to increase flourishing in their lives.
CHOOSE ALIVENESS
Skill Refresh - Numinous Leadership and PERMA+ME
Megan explains Lark's Song's 2020 theme and gives an intro to the seven facets of well-being.
DISCOVER PURPOSE
What Determines Happiness
Leading researcher in positive psychology, Sonja Lyumbomirsky, gives a brief overview of the factors that determine happiness by synthesizes research studies in her field.
DEVELOP POTENTIAL
Functional Genomic Perspectives on Well-being
Geneticist, Stephen Cole and Positive Psychologist, Barbara Fredrickson team up to provide this incredible study on how eudamonic well-being practices actually heal our DNA. (WHAT?!)
LEAD TO SERVE
I'm sitting here, writing the article for our January Co-Lab newsletter on March 1st - shortly after committing to fast from disappointment for Lent and announcing that our organization's theme for the year is "numinous leadership." It is not lost on me that we have quite a ways to go before numinous leadership is a comprehensive reality and that my Lenten withdrawal from perpetual disappointment is both hilarious and sorely needed for my own growth. (Also, did you know that I don't like taking care of sick people. I've talked with other Enneagram 8s and it seems to be a struggle for all of us. I found out last year that my threshold between compassionate caregiver and clinical dictator occurs at about day four of said sick or injured person's anguish. So of course, in the month of February my entire team and family was sick and injured. There were MAYBE four days in the entire month that I wasn't taking care of someone. I share this with you because I find it interesting that the world did not fall apart...yet, in this state of things that feels very not numinous, but is just the thing to grow numinous leadership in anyone.) And yet, it is also not lost on me that all vision holds both the beauty that is already here and the hope of what is not yet. "Numinous" is a word that indicates or suggests the presence of divinity. It's a lofty thing and yet it's also a very present thing in this moment - able to be seen in our community and it's generosity, able to be experienced in the new Cohort 14, able to be known as our team sits with each other after surgeries and propagates plants that have outgrown their containers and witnesses transformation over Marco Polos and loves on each other by granting permission for rest and renewal through encouragement and tea-gifts.
As you think about your own well-being and that of your clients, what would it be like to lead them by granting power to the relationship and granting permission for the divine to show up in your sessions in unexpected ways. What if you embraced the very real proposition that by exercising your coaching competencies in risky, brave, excellent ways, you actually have the opportunity to help someone heal their DNA. That sounds pretty...numinous. Here are five daily well-being interventions for you:
3 Gratitudes (each day catalog three new things you are grateful for, no repeats for twenty-one days)
One Positive Memory (set a timer for two minutes and freewrite about one positive experience you have had in the last 24 hours)
Exercise (set a timer for 15 minutes and move in a way that feels fun and free to your body - this trains your brain in optimism because you are believing that your behavior matters AND it's the equivalent of taking an anti-depressant for 6 months - no joke!)
Breathe (set a timer for two minutes a day and just breathe - you don't even have to breathe a fancy breath or in any special way - you're training your brain to focus on one thing at a time - did you know that attention has quickly become one of our scarcest resources?)
Send kindness (this one only takes two minutes too! send a text or email to another person once a day that only expresses acknowledgement and kindness - don't ask them to do anything for you. do this for a new person each day - no repeats - for 21 days.)
Twenty-five minutes a day to a more flourishing you!
Questions for Reflection:
Where do I experience well-being right now? What does my flourishing that is "not yet" look like?
What is at stake if I stay the way I am without growth, rest, inspiration, or letting go?
Affirmation:
“I will move and be moved.“
Blessings,
